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#RamadhanReflections- "What is patience?"

Bismillahi Rahmaanir Raheem

In a conversation with my two left toes, my sisters from other misters, the Michelles to my Beyoncé (I could honestly go on)...

the question "what does patience mean to you" was brought up...

Not surprisingly we all had different answers, but we all had one thing in common "trusting in God"

Patience for me, is about waiting, yes, but waiting beautifully and never giving up. For me you can be upset, you can be whiney, but you never give up in God. You whine to God, and you carry yourself beautifully whilst you wait. Patience is having faith that the outcome will be what's best. Personally, I tend to find my patience has a time limit, I always subconsciously feel like after two weeks max it should all be better, my du'as should be answered. Hence why I believe part of patience is waiting and not hurrying life. 

Also why I know I'm bad at being patient lol. 

Have you ever looked back and thought, "subhanAllah, What was I even worried about?"

So today I put the question to you, "what is patience?"

My definition of patience is hard to define without using the word ‘faith’. Patience I feel is having faith that what you’re working for shall come your way in due time, but also whilst Ur being patient to carry on work hard :) {prayer + Hardwork = Success}
— Michelle 1 :P
Patience - making dua to Allah and accepting what is and what was, and knowing that what ever is meant for you will never pass you, and likewise what wasn’t meant for you’ll never get it. However, remember to tie your camel and not just make Dua, try your best and have faith that Allah will bless you what’s best for you. Remember He loves us more than we can imagine.
— Michelle 2 :P

Before you go off and ponder (my new fave word lol) I want to share with you a thought I had when reading about the life of Sa'd ibn Muadh (RA)...

*sets scene*

The last battle Sa'd witnessed was the battle of the trench, the muslims had no idea that the Quraish were gathering all the Arabs together to wage a war. They found out a week prior to the "surprise" attack. SubhanAllah how would you feel? A week to prepare for a battle you wasn't expecting, and furthermore people you had made treaties with broke them, and snaked you. You are pretty much surrounded...

In fact it was said it felt like Arabs were surrounding them from above, below and within...

Now, Allah had promised the Muslims victory over the Quraish, but at this point the victory would have been seeming like a dream to some of the muslims. As you can expect, the hypocrites picked up on this, and began their whisperings.  

Putting myself in their shoes, I can't help but wonder what magnanimous level of patience it must have required to plod on and not give up. SubhanAllah I believe firmly in my religion, but any small test and I'll be crying "Ya Allah, why me?" I've never had a gang of people try beat me up, let alone thousands and thousands! 

On top of that, they manned the trench day and night, with very little food, having to tie rocks to their tummy. I'm sure I don't even have to describe how I would be after day 1 of no food. SubhanAllah! Why? because they had trust in Allah (SWT), they believed in His Messenger (SAW). 

And did Allah not grant them victory?

Allah does not forsake the believers, verily the promise of Allah is true. 

I pray any of us facing trials can overcome them with a beautiful patience, I pray we never lose sight of the mercy of Allah!! 

وَاصْبِرْ نَفْسَكَ مَعَ الَّذِينَ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُم بِالْغَدَاةِ وَالْعَشِىِّ يُرِيدُونَ وَجْهَهُ وَلاَ تَعْدُ عَيْنَاكَ عَنْهُمْ تُرِيدُ زِينَةَ الْحَيَوةِ الدُّنْيَا وَلاَ تُطِعْ مَنْ أَغْفَلْنَا قَلْبَهُ عَن ذِكْرِنَا وَاتَّبَعَ هَوَاهُ وَكَانَ أَمْرُهُ فُرُطًا

And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His countenance. And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life, and do not obey one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows his desire and whose affair is ever [in] neglect.
— Quran 18:28
Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience
— Abu Sa'id and Abu Hurrairah
The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance.
— Ibn Umar, Sunan Ibn Majah 4032

lol when you feel like a hadith is indirecting you (@ me famm lol)!! I CAN'T STAND ANNOYING PEOPLE SubhanAllah, time to bite my tongue and Sabr sum mo.

Working on my character 101- Hold your breath and bite your tongue. My tips for survival, ha!